In trying to teach our girls personal responsibility I’ve stumbled across a lot of conviction. What I teach them I can learn for myself. We all need a little reminding. Agree?
Our culture is one of victimization. I’m a victim, you’re a victim, we’re all victims. Victims of society, victims of prejudice, victims of unfair business practices, victims of poor government, victims of our past and enslaved to our future.
How, in this environment of blame and woe-is-me-ism do we teach our children the virtue of personal responsibility?
Well, for starters, with lots of patience and repetition.
Here are four things we mention on a regular basis:
- You choose how you spend your time. Rarely does the excuse “I don’t have enough time” fly. Mostly, you do have enough time, you just choose to use it doing other things.
- You choose how you respond to a challenge. You either stand up and face it head-on or you back away and allow yourself to be defeated before you even try.
- You choose how you respond to other people. When asked a question or given a command or criticism, you choose whether to answer harshly or softly. Others can’t “make” you do anything.
- You choose what kind of attitude you have. Positive or negative? Glass half full or empty? Selfish or selfless?
By the way, these are truths I remind myself of on a daily basis. Taking responsibility isn’t easy; it’s much more convenient to pass the blame and point the finger.
Question: In what other areas do we need to be reminded of personal responsibility?