I used to be pretty high-strung. Used to be.
Four years ago I went through cancer. That tends to change the way you view the world, the way you view yourself and your place in the world, and the way you view God and His place in your life.
It changes your perspective, your values. It’s one of those before and after events. Everything is now “before cancer” or “after cancer.”
One of the things my battle did for me was cause me to evaluate the difference between those things in life that seem like they matter and the things that really do matter. As a result, I discovered there was a lot of worry, strife, anger, frustration, and discouragement that didn’t need to be there. I’d gotten caught up too many times in those things that seemed like they mattered.
And life was too short for that.
I’ve boiled everything down to three areas that are most important to me, the things that matter the most. If something doesn’t fit into one of these categories it’s probably not worth losing sleep over.
Here they are:
1. My faith. My walk with God is the most important thing because if that isn’t right nothing else will be. Trust me, I know that from personal experience and lots of it.
2. My family. When the world is falling down around me, when I’m despised, rejected, when I feel like a total failure, when I mess up royally, I know my family will always be there to welcome me and love me. If it has to do with my family, it matters.
3. My integrity. It’s who I am. Really. It affects how I do my job(s), how I treat others, how I respond to the garbage the world throws at me. My motives and how I flesh those motives out. How others percieve me. I’ve made it a goal to pray every morning, “Lord, today, keep me from evil.” Not necessarily keep evil from reaching me, but keep me from doing evil.
So that’s it. The big three. Now, I fully understand that just because I post these here doesn’t mean I’m faithful to these three all the time. No way. I lose my way often. But this short list is my north star bringing me back to sanity and that place of perspective and focus.
What are the things that matter most to you?