Today I’m introducing a new series of posts I’m calling “Family Friday.” Every Friday I’ll post snippets of honest-to-goodness family life. Sometimes it’ll be an anecdote, sometimes a spattering of quotes, maybe a poll I conduct very informally, maybe something else. But it will always have to do with family living, the joys, the pains, the humor, the beauty.
Some of you know that my day job is in the field of home health care. Last year I was seeing an elderly woman, 91 years old to be exact, and had the opportunity to meet her husband, 92. They’d just celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary. I asked her what the secret to a long, happy marriage was.
Now, if you’re married, listen up. This is the wisdom of the ages.
She massaged her hands together and smiled sheepishly. Then, in her soft voice she said, “Well, every night when we go to sleep, we lay in bed next to each other and say our prayers and I hold his hand and he holds mine. Then I say, ‘I love you dear,’ and then he says, ‘I love you, too, dear.'”
I waited for more. I wanted more. I mean, c’mon, you’ve been married for 70 years and that’s all you got? Then, as if her words were a fist that finally landed it’s blow it hit me. The simplicity of her statement, but also the complexity of it. The beauty of it.
That one little act shouted so many volumes about the faithfulness they shared, the dedication, the togetherness . . . the love. Read it again and let it sink in. Really, it’s some of the best marriage advice I’ve ever received. Now if I could only put it into practice . . . for the next 55 years!
What’s some marriage advice you’ve heard from those married 50+ years?